You can metaphorically date me now

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Matt, I don’t know if you remember me but we went on two or possibly three dates in 1997. I remember that you were a really good guy and I was a jerk and totally blew you off and never called you back even though you were really interesting and nice. I am so sorry I wasn’t kinder to you then. But seeing you here this weekend has shown me what a truly remarkable person you are more than even in those dates. You have helped so many people in stunning and surprising ways. I really should have dated you then.

I don’t always start off with the punchline but this is a different sort of post.

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In the Winter of 2009 I took a course called “Creativity and Personal Mastery” that was offered by Srikumar Rao. It was a course that was originally offered at Columbia Business School. The course is a mixture of philosophically based introspection, creativity, mindset shifting via certain exercises and practices and new leadership/business paradigms. It became one of the most popular courses at CBS that was signed up for years in advance and regularly referred to by graduates as the most significant class they took in business school.

The course moved to London Business School and Haas Business school to similar acclaim. The people who take the course tend to be really achievy, smart and thoughtful people and there is a strong alumni community with people all over the world who meet up regularly to do the exercises Rao offers and to discourse with others of like mind.

While I did not get a lot of the class in terms of content (I had practiced virtually all of the material covered and had gone over a lot of the same ground on my own and in other forums) I loved taking the class and connecting with these new people who are interested in many of the same things I am. I am very glad that I took the course and am part of the community. It has been good to me. Many great friends of mine have been made there. I recommend the course.

There are also fairly annual alumni retreats where these smart and achievy people get together for a long weekend to connect and reconnect with each other and the work of CPM.

The last retreat was outside of San Francisco at the spectacular Stillheart Institute.

I live in New York. The retreat was in San Francisco. Just flying there was expensive. The retreat itself wasn’t cheap either. Amazingly I got a call from one of the organizers who said that there was an anonymous benefactor who claimed that my value to the community was so great that it was important that I be at the retreat and that all costs of getting to and being at the retreat were covered.

This was an amazing and generous gift.

At the retreat I certainly contributed and gave as fully as I could – just as I would have if I had paid for it myself. There was a woman there who seemed familiar somehow and by the second full day of the retreat I recognized this woman as someone I had gone on a date or two with almost fifteen years ago. I didn’t want to bring any attention to this and didn’t mention it. But I ended up being in a few different workshops with her and we shared a table with some others over dinner.

On the last day of the retreat she came up to me and said:

Matt, I don’t know if you remember me but we went on two or possibly three dates in 1997. I remember that you were a really good guy and I was a jerk and totally blew you off and never called you back even though you were really interesting and nice. I am so sorry I wasn’t kinder to you then. But seeing you here this weekend has shown me what a truly remarkable person you are more than even in those dates. You have helped so many people in stunning and surprising ways. I really should have dated you then.

I was really touched by this and we then proceeded to catch up more formally.

The point of the story is this.

You can metaphorically date me now after a long time redeveloping this website and being offline to think about it…you don’t need to wait. I am available.

T. Thorn Coyle  said on G+

People read my blog and social media pages every day without buying any of my books, CDs, or taking a class. I’m happy to post what inspiration flows though me, but without those dedicated people who spread the word, and offer money in exchange for my effort, my public work would go away. Those who give back, I thank you from the bottom of my black heart.

While I don’t have any CD’s or classes (at the moment) the sentiment is very much the same. All the creative approaches I offer these people and write about for you… I can do the same for you.

Here is what I am offering.

If you are contending with something big or small, personal or professional and need help looking at this certain situation in new ways. I am your man.

I am thrilled to help you in any mode of communication I can do so in person, on the phone, skype, tin can with string, smoke signals, carrier pigeon…

In weird and creative ways I have helped :

name novels
deal with unrequited love
resolve disputes
a rapper find his rhyme flows
find spirit animals
cope with boredom
deal with theft in the workplace
re-imagine an oboe career
restructure a business plan
eliminate stress related stomach pains

I even helped one person with a creative approach to avoid getting murdered.

I can help you.

email me at m@stillmansays.com or call at 212 864 8728 if you have questions.

Need more and more regularly? email me at m@stillmansays.com and we will work it out.

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