The Stories

In April of 2009, I started an experiment in Union Square in New York City I sit out there with two chairs, a table and a sign that says: Creative Approaches To What You Have Been Thinking About People approach me and we talk about whatever is a sticking point for them at that time.more…

Public Listening or When Silence Speaks

Public Listening or When Silence Speaks

I am always grateful when someone as lovely as K comes to the table. She exuded a simple joyous quality coupled with a fine air of stillness that radiated from her in equal measure. Soft spoken but clear and easy to talk to. The sort  that you just start talking, assuming that you have alreadymore>>

Lines of Force – where grief and dinner intersect

Lines of Force – where grief and dinner intersect

J, a good looking young guy with hair in a gussied up version of bedhead wanders up to the table. He is friendly but seemed distracted. He started by telling me that he is in the park today mainly to play speed chess. But what is pressing on him more heavily are his dinner plans.more>>

Ecstasy as Religion

Ecstasy as Religion

If you don’t live in New York City it is unlikely that you know about the Black Hebrew Israelites.  Though there is a long and interesting history of the intersection of African Americans and Jewish culture in New York City, there is one group with amazing uniforms that is both vocal and incredibly racist, whomore>>

Make your business grow by giving it away. Or anything grow for that matter.

Make your business grow by giving it away. Or anything grow for that matter.

Take a walk baby, we’re going to talk some business. K clearly knew what he wanted. He strode up with his girlfriend and asked no questions as he sat down and sent her away with the proclamation. She took a walk and K introduced himself and told me about his relatively new business that hemore>>

I don’t think we need to go all the way to 20

I don’t think we need to go all the way to 20

In the late afternoon a tall blonde woman came up to the table. She was perhaps in her early 60’s. Quite striking looking and, if I had to guess, had Parkinson’s Disease. Perhaps it was something else but she tremored and had that somewhat palsied face. If you could see her you’d know that shemore>>

Hearing your own mysterious voice

Hearing your own mysterious voice

You may recall the recent post that was written by my friend Padma Maxwell recounting her experience of me giving her a creative approach.  Padma stuck around after we were done and ended up sharing creative approach duty with me. Shortly after I had my interaction with Padma a young author came named Arthur camemore>>

Changing Your Status to Pure, Perfect and Complete

Changing Your Status to Pure, Perfect and Complete

Who among us doesn’t have a habitual version of the way we see ourselves? In an uncertain world it offers us some predictable safety. But there is a language we use to orient ourselves in almost all situations. It can be the language of making things problems or the language around making everything a competition.more>>

Disrupting Stomach Pain, Disrupting the Road to Hell

Disrupting Stomach Pain, Disrupting the Road to Hell

The Western world is so backwards that a whole industry arose out of mitigating pain from intrinsically painful activities. Hey, I can understand aspirin but ergonomic wrist supports? Desk chairs that tilt or flex or destabilize? Why not just design things that aren’t going to induce repetitive stress injuries in the first place? Admittedly bettermore>>

The Game Regulator

J came up to the table and admitted that this was not such a serious thing but that he was still stuck thinking about it. He has a great job in a visual effects company. Recently he got a promotion and is now boss to many of the peers that he was working alongside justmore>>

Tattoo Placement: On Reimagining the Body

Tattoo Placement: On Reimagining the Body

A few weeks ago I was contacted by  @steveboese who hosts an online radio show called The HR Happy Hour. While I have offered creative approaches for HR problems before I wondered if  there would indeed be enough fodder for a one hour call in show for creative approaches about HR issues. Steve assured me that mymore>>

Finding a new home by inverting a laundry list

Finding a new home by inverting a laundry list

If you are reading this  blog then you live in a world where productivity, efficiency and progress rule. We are goal oriented and growth-minded. And to this end we have a whole raft of tools to help us plant a flag in the virgin ground of our futures. There are algorithms on Amazon suggesting tomore>>

Improvised Insight Interview with Dave Ursillo

Recently I had the opportunity to talk with Dave Ursillo for a dual purpose – an Improvised Insight Interview for me and this site and a Conversations in Purpose that Dave is having over at his site in January. Dave is a thoughtful and fascinating guy who is not only really handsome but runs online writingmore>>

Self Imposed limits in the Garden

Self Imposed limits in the Garden

R came to me in minor tizzy with a very, very New Yorky concern. R reported that she Has worked very hard indeed to establish a community garden with other friends and neighbors in the Lower East Side/East Village area. But, you see, our garden is not officially designated as a NYC Greenspace and somore>>

Snail Surplus? Might be Duck Deficiency: On being present to difficulties Sometimes I just listen

Snail Surplus? Might be Duck Deficiency: On being present to difficulties Sometimes I just listen

This picture was sent to me. I don’t write about every person who stops by and asks for a creative approach. I feel like some editing on my end is important. I wasn’t going to write about R but I was really touched by her gentleness and her story. There are inscrutable positions that wemore>>

What baby feet and St. Anthony have to do with making decisions

What baby feet and St. Anthony have to do with making decisions

We can’t agree where to live. So settle this for us. Where should we live? ********************** We all think that the process of decision making is not only our own but fairly straight forward. We look at the decision that needs to be made, anticipate some likely outcome, weigh them against each other and thenmore>>

The Sabbath of Insecurity for Incompetent Idiots

The Sabbath of Insecurity for Incompetent Idiots

Years ago I helped my friend Katherine kick heroin. I had never had any experience with the drug (or any drugs for that matter) and in the frightening process, I learned a tremendous amount about addiction, biology, and the underground drug world. Signing on at the hospital as the one to have responsibility to makemore>>

Where is your heart? A meditation on death, dying and living.

Where is your heart? A meditation on death, dying and living.

When sitting at the table and someone comes up it often seems that they are so open that I just know something about them. Not details about their lives per se, but something about the way they comport themselves somehow. I don’t know how my senses combine, it is a sort of listening that happensmore>>

Your start up does not need your passion

Your start up does not need your passion

“In this economy” is sad cliche of the last few years. Sad because the state of the economy has driven so many people into frustrating situations around employment, money and feelings of lack of stability. I am hardly immune. I started offering creative approaches because I was laid off from a consulting job. But themore>>

Jesus was wrong: what those magazines on your coffee table really mean

Jesus was wrong: what those magazines on your coffee table really mean

In the Gospel of Thomas, one of the exiled books of the Gospels (highly suggested reading), Jesus said When you make the two into one, and when you make the inner like the outer and the outer like the inner, and the upper like the lower, and when you make male and female into amore>>

Lean into and heighten your obstacle

Lean into and heighten your obstacle

Nobody likes obstacles. And things we don’t like we usually try to avoid. On one level this makes sense. If you don’t like spinach, you avoid it. If you don’t like your crazy racist aunt, you avoid her. You don’t like the idea of dying so we do things that will hasten the arrival ofmore>>