Category Archives: Conflict Resolutions & Interesting Impediments

Lean into and heighten your obstacle

Lean into and heighten your obstacle

Nobody likes obstacles. And things we don’t like we usually try to avoid. On one level this makes sense. If you don’t like spinach, you avoid it. If you don’t like your crazy racist aunt, you avoid her. You don’t like the idea of dying so we do things that will hasten the arrival ofmore…

Cruise Control, Auto Pilot, Setting Goals: Sleep Inducers

Cruise Control, Auto Pilot, Setting Goals: Sleep Inducers

Often there is a sense that making goals is a good and useful thing. And I suppose that in some cases, maybe in many cases, it is. But goals can be a version of auto-pilot or cruise control. Far too easily we turn into Ron Popeil and “set it and forget  it.” We are pointedmore…

Chase Tragedy: Do the opposite of your goals

Chase Tragedy: Do the opposite of your goals

“This is something else I can blame my mother for – her cancer is ruining my comedy career.” ********** I have been very fortunate to have been involved with the Upright Citizens Brigade since they first arrived in New York City from Chicago in 1996. I stumbled into their first show in New York bymore…

Inner & Outer Trash Transformed To Inner & Outer Art

Inner & Outer Trash Transformed To Inner & Outer Art

There is no lack of trash in the world. It is astonishing. For every piece of good citizenry we do by snagging the swirling bag blowing in front of us there seems to be an unending number of bags and bottles and papers to replace the one you just got. It is a huge problemmore…

Like it or not, you are a Somali pirate

Like it or not, you are a Somali pirate

What would you do about the pirate situation off the coast of Somalia? ********** There is nothing simple about the country of Somalia on the eastern Horn of Africa. It achieved  independence from Britain and Italy in 1960 and because of its important strategic location near the mouth of the Red Sea and Saudi Arabiamore…

Smallness: On Listening and Silence in Public

Smallness: On Listening and Silence in Public

When people sit down at the table sometimes I need to do some heavy lifting – which I don’t mind at all. Sometimes some proverbial brush needs to be cleared before a creative approach can be found/discovered/offered. Sometimes all that is needed is just the barest touch. C sat down happily brimming at how muchmore…

Agreement, Alligators and Grandmothers

As my maternal grandmother was dying this formerly highly intelligent woman was reduced to a very different being as she was in the grips of dementia. While she had a live in nurse named Alice from Zambia I had the task of visiting with her with some regularity in her final months and weeks. Imore…

Spill Your Juice Specifically and Embrace your Obsession

Spill Your Juice Specifically and Embrace your Obsession

I am pretty sure I have met the perfect woman for me. And if she isn’t a lesbian she is open to being with women.  ********** Jennifer was late and had called about her being turned around and lost twice by that point. I didn’t mind at all, it was actually quite funny and endearing.more…

Homeless Dreams of Dragons

“Pay What You Like or Take What You Need” That is what a small sign says on my table in Union Square in New York. The bigger sign reads “Creative Approaches To What you Have Been Thinking About.” What that means exactly is mysterious. People pay in varying amounts. People pay in non-currency like hugs,more…

Declaw or Not-Declaw – that is the question

My cat has ripped up two couches. And he hates getting his nails cut. G was a fidgety Woody Allen type who “ummed” and “erred” and gesticulated wildly as he told me about his 8 year old cat. G’s cat is a chronic scratcher of furniture and, this point was reiterated a few times, hasmore…