Oh! Hello again! It’s you!
Read these things. Then say hello. I’d like to know you.
To connect, email me any time: m(at)stillmansays(dot)com
Here’s a bit more info about what I do:
I write & listen.
Books. Change. Other things that make life interesting.
I connect & guide
“I just wish I could figure out what the right decision was.”
“I swear, I have tried every possible angle and I STILL cant figure it out.”
“I’m just not sure what to do.”
“I feel like no matter how hard I try to break the pattern, I wind up in the same place over and over.”
I specialize in listening deeply to what’s working for you and ask you the questions that help you unfold the answers you need most.
“Matt is one of the rare people that when you speak to him, you know he is bringing his entire self to the conversation. He listens as though it is an ancient art form, makes no judgements and prods you to think about what you’ve told him from new perspectives until you knock loose the solution that was hidden inside you all along. There are few people with as deep a mind and heart. He has supported me in my venture – Your Project X – and mentored dozens of my participants, adults focused on finding new direction and changing careers.”
– Jeff Hittner, Founder, Your Project X
“But Matt, my problem is weird. I feel silly bringing it up.”
On the list of issues I’ve sorted out: the reimagining of an oboe career, how to deal with unrequited love I even helped one person come up with a creative way to avoid getting murdered.
Nothing is too off-beat.
“But Matt, I have thought about this A LOT. I’m sure theres nothing you could think of that I havent already thought of.”
We naturally find solutions based on our own singular perspective. We look at our personal needs and the needs of those we care about. Thats what people do. Thats also what nudges us back into the same grooves over and over. I can help you look at your issue from the outside of your regular grooves. Together, we consider what you need and also help you see what your unique circumstances might be obscuring.
“My problem is really hard to talk about. I never know where to start.”
Thats okay. We can find the beginning together. I have worked with all kinds of sensitive issues. You can count on a safe, calm chat. No pressure. Im not going to tell you what to do; Im going to help you see new options.
“So, I give you a problem, you give me a solution?”
Lets say that you and your issue will dictate the outcome of our session.
“What are some of the other issues you have tackled?”
Good question! I’ve named novels, resolved disputes, helped creative people conquer blocks, restructured business plans, helped to eliminate the physical manifestations of stress, come up with creative marketing and product ideas, etc. I even helped a client find her spirit animal.
I want to hear your story.
“Matthew provides genuine empathy on many levels. His openness and non-judgement allow him to listen while providing strength and humility. He speaks with grace through an open mind and heart.
He’s has been an essential healer to me as I progress through life’s many challenges from NYC where I met him, to SF and beyond. I am truly lucky to know him.”
– Chris Byrnes
The Single Session:
If you feel ready for a fresh look at an issue thats been on your mind, and want to book a single session, you can expect an hour-ish long call via phone or Skype. Well chat, explore, and re-frame.
Single sessions are designed to dig deep on single issues.
You’ll come out the other side with a fresh approach (or approaches) to whatever has been on your mind.
1 creative approach session $225
Buy Now and Get a Creative Approach
Note: The ‘buy now button’ links will take you to a paypal purchase page. I’ll be in touch to schedule within a day or so to set up scheduling.
Or, if youre finding yourself feeling less-than-clear in general, and are looking for a more long-term partner to help keep you on-track, how about we chat for 20 minutes (on me) and see if we connect. So you know how pricing works ahead of time, here’s how more-than-one-session breaks down:
For when you need just a bit more:
2 creative approach sessions $349
For when there’s a few things that lead to other things:
4 creative approach sessions $529
For when you are looking for partnership as you move through _____________:
10 creative approach sessions $999
To schedule a chat, email me: firstname.lastname@example.org
I can help you. And if you are worried, I guarantee all my sessions with my 100% + $1 protection. If you aren’t satisfied with the ground we cover together after 30 days and sincere reflection. I’ll give you your money back plus one dollar.
I do other things too
(Hey…now you can read this neat third-person bio about me….)
Matt Stillman has worked one-on-one with around four thousand people to help them understand, transform, shift, and sometimes solve their problems. As a deep listener, Matt identifies unseen connections. He uses creative techniques to unravel the knotted thoughts to find threads of new directions and new wonderings, bringing the people he works with towards a new relationship with the ground they are standing on and moving them towards new opportunities in their lives.
Prior to his career as a professional Problem-Re-Imaginer, Matt was a program development executive at Food Network, where he oversaw the production of thousands of hours of programming.His job was to come up with new ideas, find good ones and then make them better and then discover talent to make it all come together. He discovered Iron Chef and Good Eats among many others.
Matt is a veteran performer of long form improvisational comedy, primarily at the Upright Citizens Brigade Theater in NYC for more than two decades. As a student of Amy Poehler and the UCB, he learned about how improvisation is (among other things) about listening and focusing on the other person, giving back and agreeing and adding new information by embodying the philosophies of, ‘yes, and’ and ‘if this, then what?.’ He wrote a book integrating improvisational comedy concepts with the Ten Commandments, fearlessly mixing the sacred with the creative.
Matt conceived of, wrote the treatment for and co-produced feature length documentary film about the origins of poverty and why it persists in a world with so much wealth. His film, called, ‘The End of Poverty?’ premiered at the Cannes Film Festival and was featured in over 40 festivals around the world. Matt spoke at the United Nations about the film and poverty four times as well as many other educational and socio-political forums about the issues raised in the film.
Currently Matt is developing a study to radically transform the property tax system in New York City.
He created JED Talks, a satire of TED Talks.
He launched a home-grown, cottage industry natural skin care line called Primal Derma where the product is made primarily of grass-fed rendered beef tallow.
Matt has written, Genesis Deflowered, which is an erotic retelling King James version of the book of Genesis using the same terse, poetic, and chaste style. He is working on deflowering many other books of The Bible.
He has books in process about fire as the original human trauma and the impact fire had on the status of women and feminine values in culture. Additionally he has another book in the research phase which is a kind of an anthology which gathers the mythologies of indigenous peoples from around the world about the stories of the creation of human woman.
Additionally he helped to teach the storied Creativity and Personal Mastery course developed by Srikumar Rao for many years.
His life long study and practice of Advaita Vedanta and other Eastern mystical traditions informs his approach towards people as well as his general wide-ranging catholic interests and study – history, science, mythology, movement, ancestral health, human-making, psychology, philosophy.
After a short stint with a men’s group in his teens with Robert Bly and a period of study with David Deida in the early 2000’s and other ‘men’s work,’ Matthew started and helps facilitate a men’s group in New York City called ‘Manahatta.’ He is currently a scholar in the Orphan Wisdom School.
Matt Stillman lives in New York City where he cooks a lot, reads a lot, works out a lot and tries to balance stones when he can.
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